annoying things about wedding planning

sorry to be a debbie downer, but i just had to vent.

here are three of the most annoying things of wedding planning:

1. when people have no idea how much a wedding costs and still ask if they can bring a guest when your list is already hard enough to narrow down. there is enough stuff on a bride's plate and your +1 is not really going to be a priority on her list. plus, it's really selfish and impatient of you to ask before receiving your invitation, regardless of the fact that you must make travel arrangements. the bride isn't going to be inconsiderate by sending her invitations late, so you shouldn't be inconsiderate by rushing her or asking her to comply to your requests. plus, it's her wedding, and if she doesn't want your guest there and you're going to be a baby about it, don't come! she has people sitting on her b list that she would love to invite!

2. the guest list: narrowing down the guest list is hard enough. being organized when doing this is key. unfortunately for me, mr. zok isn't a very organized person when it comes to documents. thta coupled with me doing all of the planning made us i think send our save the date out like 15 different times to people we kept forgetting. DON'T DO IT. IT IS INSANE TO GATHER UP ALL OF THEIR NAMES WHEN IT'S TIME TO SEND THE INVITATIONS! i think after i labeled all of the invitations with some friends one night, i still had to just now sit down and double check all of the people the save the date was sent to in order to ensure everyone that got a save the date is getting an invitation. i had to relabel about FIFTEEN new invitations that had gotten lost in the shuffle!

3. other people's wishes bumping yours to the side: i love my mother. i do. i am thankful to her for hosting this wedding, especially when the economy is down. i am thankful that she is working as my consultant as i'm here in philly and she's in cali. but at the same time, i feel like i was completely jipped out of some aspects of the wedding. #1: venue picking, #2: flower arrangments, #3: hairstylist

i'm sure i have more complaints, but these are my top three right this second.